blackshade10 wrote:Except the male is rarely considered THAT important. In addition, drow do not have marriage customs as drow do not get married.
Yup, and I could also see that a Val might give a male from a vassal house status in connection to themselves as a reward to that house to better establish intra-clan ties - Zala therefore could have boosted Sabrror from, say, the Xyrrai'zestu, and while she did it because she does have a strong bond with him it also causes the Xyrrai'zestu to be honored (especially if he was in the De'vess's family), hence stronger loyalty to the Val houses, especially to Zala's house in particular.
While I don't know Sabrror's lineage, I'm just using the Xyrrai'zestu as an example because they were Zala's vanguard and appear very loyal in the Prologue. Point is though that a Val can raise a status for someone if they wish, especially someone who has no measurable impact on the clan/bloodline (a male). Raising a female would put them on status with one's descendants which could cause trouble, though technically with the Protector Twins the twin does stand the possibility of taking their sister's place (even if it is rare they do). Quain taking in non-blood heirs is probably scoffed at by other clans, especially the Sharen, for this reason - they risk someone else's bloodline continuing into the future, especially when the adopted forcibly takes the reigns with clan backup. Quain naturally would want her children to take over what she's made, but that probably is a sore spot that she's aware of too, and having Ariel does reduce badmouthing about Quain's personal power (for Vals, this is family strength, which Quain has little of with but two living children, one male, and a grandchild).
But as males are not important in the scheme of things unless you want to mention who they fathered for record-keeping, raising a male to your house is probably not a huge deal and again, reserved for honoring those who have aided your house. If you do get bored with them, it isn't a huge deal - they probably serve more than a mating function in the house (I suspect Sabrror has some military or guard-organizing duties in Zala's house) so the Val female can still utilize them and possibly return to them for mating later if she becomes interested again. It isn't like if she moves on she will never show interest again. Even Zala has mated with other men, she just returns to Sabrror often and has an emotional connection to him past just mating. He also is very loyal so even when she's away he's still doing what he can to support her house.