[Jonarus_Drakus]

I have started this thread to provide a quiet(er), more casual location away from the bickering of a certain CC thread, for the discussion of ways to clamly/slowly encourage An'Jhali to have a more active 'social life'. An important note from the get-go is that the whole "OMG want hier nao!" subject if NOT open for discussion here, is it possible that such could result from An'Jhali socialising more and maybe meeting someone as a result? Sure... But what we are here to discuss, is how to improve her confidence so she can function is a casual/social setting instead of being the "shy, nervous shut-in" many seem to feel she is now (I don't think its that bad, but more confidence won't hurt)...

Basically, my opinion on the matter could be rectified by a simple advice suggesting that she take some (even if only small) time for herself to interact with both her fellow Tei's and the Nals in a more relaxed, casual setting: "My lady, take some time off to interact with everyone in a more relaxed setting" (or something like that )

JD

PS: PLEASE remember to keep your posts civil, I think i can speak for everyone when i say that we don't want this to devolve into another fiasco...

[kirio]

It would be nice if she could go to a social event or two while we are in the Nal'Sarkoth caverns and meet more of the leaders of our allies.

[minalia]

Yes she could participate in the social parties with the nals and try and convince some of the rich traders attending in those social events to invest in the future settlement to obtain items we really need in exchange for the local ressources we will have in large quantities.

[James Rye]

*nods*
Yeah, on her own she will not participate at those partys or tries to find excuses not to attend them, so we gonna have to give her some encouraging in order to let her visit those partys to be more *social* involved.
Besides that she can get infos, new partners for trading and maybe find a nice guy who´s easy for her to talk to, so that´s that.

Maybe we should also ask her if there will be some kind of party at the Nals house?

[Aerisa]

Someone mentioned houses, perhaps we could ask Anjha'li to get acquainted with the leaders of the various houses we will be involved with on the surface? Those overseeing overworld merchants, relic hunters, those who will accompany us to the surface to start settling our colony, etc.

[dialacton21]

I like Izuza's suggestion.

I would like to see our leader truly relax in a social way. And even if you fall that can be still considered a learning experience.

[James Rye]

Problem is how do we get her to partys if we don´t even know if the Nals party at all or not?

Or should we throw a party and invite the Nals so that our Illhar gets more social?

[Jonarus_Drakus]

A little pro-activity couldn't hurt... (much)

Of course, if we are the ones to start the party... Then how do we go about it? We're gonna need to come up with a reason if we don't want to get shut down before we even start...

JD

[James Rye]

Either we do the party as a volunteer action or we ask An'Jhali if there are any Nal partys.

I would still like to ask her if she´s really against datng a Nal Val if she has a matter of choice/word in it.

[Jonarus_Drakus]

I think asking a question like that would invite a kicking

But lets make sure the incoming update doesn't have anything that we have to deal with thats of massive importance... Only if its safe can we move forward with any advice along the lines discussed in this thread...

I'm thinking the safest bet would be something like: "My lady, take some time to relax and socialise, we're in no rush."

JD

[James Rye]

I doubt the kicking, expect Trey wants to exercise more.

She has taken Biel´s advise seriously, so if i ask her in earnest she will give a honest answer and then we know where we really stand with the whole date-a-Nal-subject.

If she says no way, then okay, no pressure. If she says that she ahs nothing against it, she just doesn´t know any, then we can try the *relax and party*-way so that she may meet some Nal Vals.

The whole Nal Val/Date/baby thing right now got outta control, people were accusing each other and turning words in everyone´s mouth so it was more of a dirt-fight then a real discussion. However if we get An'Jhali´s real POV on that subject we can act according to it-

If she says yes or is okay with it, we could do a volunteer action in which *we ask around if some partys will start the next days to attend*.

[kirio]

The last time I remember An'jhali enjoying time spent with an ally was her conversations with Ilhar Svartelos. I would like to see her form at least as good a relationship with one or more of our Nal'sarkoth allies. If that leads to a liaison producing an heir for the clan that would be a great bonus, but the big thing would be developing a personal friendship with one of our allies (male or female).

[James Rye]

How about that we add into your realx and socialise advise that we´re worried about her cause she works too much/hard. Given the pages from the last weeks she is very hard with herself and her leader abilities and now she focus alot on our future and works alot to make sure that we get a good settlement forgetting her own health/desires/etc. again.

Also maybe the one who advise her should be the one who know her the best/ got the most personal information out of her: Elif aka Thalar if she´s okay with that.

It would make sense if the one who knows most of her and is/was our former healer head worries about An'Jhali´s health cause she overworks herself. Giving her the advise to rest and be invited to some partys we search for to socialise more in her Val circles and to befriend more of our now *best* ally would be sure to get enough votes to pass without the whole *YOU JUST FORCE HER TO FUCK SOME RANDOM GUY TO GET A HEIR; YOU BARBARIANS!!!* drama like last time.

And i agree that making more friends of her status would help An'Jhali to not be always so up-tight around other Illhars/Illharess. If she finds a guy who she enjoys spending time with, then all the better.

[Xalgoz]

I think Elif will be phasing herself out of the game, since she's been named as the GM at this point. Probably going to show up in the one epilogue with her family and that's it. She hasn't even voted for any options since then.

[Aerisa]

I am not certain if we could get her help, but Bel'xullin was also well respected by Anjha'li. She might listen more if Bel put up the option for Anjha'li to go relax by hanging out and getting to know her new allies.