I think if you are looking for a potential mate there should be some type of idea of what type of male the clan wants her to meet. If we push her into parties my understanding is that this will influence her future development? So if you are looking for a military style influence maybe a better option would be directing her towards taking a more active role in martial activities or if healing arts are more of a concern then push her towards taking a more active role with the nurses. From what I have read so far her main interests seem to be music, so instead of a party maybe encourage her to take a more active role in the arts by either supporting artists or "jamming" with well known artists outside of the clan etc etc.
I think it might be worth bearing in mind that her choice of mate (if she chooses herself rather than being pushed by the clan) is highly likely to influence the future directions and "flavor" of the clan.
I also think it is most likely better to place her in a social situation where she is most likely to be comfortable. My take on Chel life is that any Val party is likely to be highly political and choosing/declining potential mates may have larger political repercussions.
If possible it would be nice to set up a situation that was both a love match and politically advantageous to the clan.